One or two generations before us, families pitched in to help the happy couple put on a beautiful, yet simple (compared to today's celebrations) wedding and reception. Brides purchased gowns or dresses that they could wear again for special occasions, and passed them to their daughters. Wedding flowers were plucked from the mom's garden earlier in the day. At the reception, guests were served wedding cake and punch — made by a family member. For most weddings, the only professionals were the pastor from the church, the organist/pianist and the photographer. Everything else was done by family and friends.
Today expectations are much higher for weddings and receptions. Extensive arrangements are made for the events, and there are wide choices of wedding professionals who have years of experience creating beautiful celebrations. Their experience can save the couple lots of headaches and money!
What to consider when DIY:
- What is your time commitment and what are the costs involved? What are you expecting? If you or your friends are not experts, typically it will take more time and possibly cost more than you anticipated.
- If you want to hold your wedding or reception at a home, remember that you will need to rent everything (tables, chairs, linens, etc.). Someone needs to set-up and take-down all of it. Someone needs to prepare the home and yard for a large crowd. Home bathrooms and parking areas are generally not suited for large crowds. You may have to rent porta-potties or buses to transport people. In the end, it may cost less to rent a full-service facility.
When to DIY:
- If you, a family member or friend have an expertise in a field that relates to your wedding / reception, consider asking them to take care of it for you. First, see samples of their work. Set your parameters. Offer to pay for their supplies / costs or give them a gift for their time / services. Always write a thank-you note.
- If your budget constraints require DIY, research costs of supplies, borrow what you can, shop at thrift stores, and find someone to do it for you — preferably not a member of the wedding party or a family member — they want to enjoy your special day.
Contributed by Puget Sound Wedding Professional member Paula R. Lowe, publisher, South Sound Wedding & Event Magazine. She is also the producer of the South Sound Wedding Shows.
